In Jennifer Wilkin’s post “Are Compatibility and Complementarity at Odds?“, she tackles a common error among conservative Christians: emphasizing the differences between Christians rather than the things that make us the same. When it comes to gender issues this is particularly dangerous. Just think about how an emphasis on gender difference plays out around the world in false religions and the cultures taught by them: women are oppressed, abused, disregarded, devalued… In the Bible, Adam’s joy was not just in the glorious differences between men and women, it was a joy in their sameness: “Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh.”
Was there order? Yes, “For Adam was formed first, then Eve.” (1 Timothy 2:13)
Was there difference? Yes, “For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9)
Do these differences have widespread implications in life? Yes, but so does our basic unity as being God’s image in creation and redemption: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27) “For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ… there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”
Let’s not treat friends like enemies to be reconciled! Our gender differences don’t erase our common humanity, and our common humanity doesn’t destroy our differences. In this way the multifaceted glory of God in creation and grace of God in redemption is manifest.
Read Jennifer Wilkin’s post here: Are Compatibility and Complementarity at Odds?